Unfortunately, any kind, honest, and attractive male of child-making age will find themselves intertwined in womans' mating schemes. It's practically unavoidable as women are faced with a biological backstop. One of the many implications that stems from walking around with the power to create life. Another implication is the ego-fueled responsibility that seems to burrow into a woman's conscious mind as they come of age. Their ego seems to naturally pull the idea of being a great mother into their identity.

Since you can't be a great mother without a great father, the motherhood calling starts with an effort to find the best father possible. It's not an easy effort, as underwriting a potential father involves viewing as much of their character as possible. Enough, hopefully, to be able to project forward how they'll show up in children 10-15 years down the road. Ideally, a prospective mother wants to see the most vulnerable, hidden parts of a male without having to show those parts of herself. And so the game goes. Women invent all sorts of crazy schemes to get involved enough with a male to be able to check them out without having to be vulnerable themselves.

Womens' schemes to create an asymmetric information advantage result in drama for everyone involved. It's not hard to see why with a bit of thought-- unbalanced vulnerability damages trust and harmony, which leads to mis-management of both expectations and communication; perfect ingredients for drama. Drama that, the vast majority of the time, the unknowing male didn't intend to create, but likely adds substance to because of his naivety. So what starts as a relatively innocent intention from a woman to minimize her vulnerability, ends up creating cycles of drama from imbalance.

Honestly, you can't blame women for being creative and persistent in trying to minimize their vulnerability. Most men aren't polite or kind about how they consume vulnerability, especially physically. With a bit of thought, most people can arrive at the conclusion that vulnerability is valuable. And across different types of vulnerability, physical vulnerability is generally the most meaningful. So in a society filled with males with wounded egos and chips on their shoulders, consuming physical vulnerability is one of the most valuable trophies for their ego. This fact, paired with biological desire, makes the world a scary place for women. And the more attractive the woman, the more of the scariness they have to deal with.

For men who are able to elevate above the natural gravity of consuming women's vulnerability for their ego, they're able to invest their vulnerability in hopes of finding a stable partnership. However, those men who are thoughtful about investing their vulnerability represent a very small percentage. And unfortunately for them, they're the type of men who women play games with that creates the aforementioned drama. So in an effort to avoid drama that doesn't result in a stable partnership, thoughtful males have almost no choice but to be reserved. And when they do decide to invest vulnerability, it has to be with right intentions. Namely, the intentions to create a partnership that's strong enough to create and raise children.

If a man is investing substantial time in a woman without the intention of having children, then there's likely a fundamental and unspoken misalignment of intentions. Again, the vast majority of women in child making range are investing time in men with the hope of finding a good father/partner; their identity commands as much. So if men don't account for this fact in their intentions, then they're signing up for misalignment and drama.